I was just thinking last night about what it would/will be like if/when I get down to my goal weight. I often dream and try to visualize what it will feel like, and look like in much smaller clothes, and looking more proper, and professional, or just sexy even. I want my tummy to be flat. I want to not look like I’m 8 months pregnant. It hurts me to the core to have to explain sevearl times a month to strangers that I am NOT pregnant. I cannot have any more babies, so it tears me to peices inside. I need the comments to stop from family. Although I know they will still find a way to keep picking on me lol. I want to FEEL lighter. I want to be proud of my body and what it can accomplish. I want to be healthy and look healthy and not frumpy and sick. I want to not have to take ANY medicines for any problems that may have partially even be due to weight.
You’ve heard the saying that “Nothing tastes as good as Thin feels.” I really belive that in my heart. I also believe that when I am thinner I will feel so much better. I dont’ even foresee a problem maintaining my new weight. Which maybe I should , who knows…but I try to keep that saying in mind. Sometimes I fail. Like last night. I was sooooooooo depressed about something…extremely depressed and upset. But the only thing that I could think of to make myself feel better(or so I thought) was a snack food that I know I should NEVER EVER have. I could not get this out of my mind. I tryed to drink water, and eat some yogurt, and it just wouldnt go away. I HAD to have it. So I did. And it was so good at the time, and then when I was done….I feel so guilty. I felt so dishonest, like I had made a big lie to someone or something. It was awful. Not even losing weight this week and hoping to be under 200 maybe sometime next week stopped me from making this big mistake. I was so disappointed in myself. I dont’ want to ever do this again.
So this morning I had gained about a pound up from yesterday. I knew this was gonna happen. I just have to try harder today and tomorrow, etc,…Also my workout last night was very difficult. I was just so tired. I was fairly sore of course from the night before too, which of course I expected as well, but there was just something that happend to me last night. I felt for the very FIRST time throughout the past 4 1/2 months, that I may not be able to carry on at this pace…or maybe even be successful at losing all the weight, ever. And it hit me why I think I am hitting this “wall” I call it. I think I have mentioned this in a prior post, but I will explain it again fast as I can. Last year in november I finally had surgery for my problem. My problem started in august 2008. I t went on for ten months before I got the attention for it that I desparately needed from a proper doctor/specialist. I had a lot of lower abdom. pain, and had started bleeding on a daily basis, the first week of august 2008. How I made it as long as I did before getting appropriate assistance, I will never know(well I know now, but not then) I was sent for a uterine biopsy in july last year with serious suspicion from symptoms and ultrasound of cancer. Keep in mind of course, I have three kids, and am only 36 at this time. With the Grace of God it so far has come back clean, no cancer, not even pre caner. Unbelieveable.. Wonderful! But they couldnt find a reason no matter what testing they did. No hormone imbalance, no thyroid issues, nothing. The next month it continued to get worse and worse till I couldnt leave the house anymore, although I hadnt gone out in quite awhile anyhow due to being in too much pain and exhausted. In august 2009, I started to lose blood at a rate I’ve never even heard of before. I ‘ve never been so scared in my entire life. (sorry next part is bad, don’t read if easily upsest)
I had to wear pads and depends as I was bleeding so much, EVERY day. Night and day. It was nearly impossible to sleep well, or enough, as I couldnt stay still for very long, even though I tried to stay still and lay down as often as possible thinking it would minimize things, but of course it didnt.
Mid august comes around. I’m in the ER for the fourth time in as many weeks. This time it is for the most massive migraine I’ve ever had. It took a long time to recover from that one. But when they did the mandatory lab work they found my hemoglobin extremely low. It was less than half of what it should be, and my iron making components, and iron stores for making hemoglobin were at the lowest measureable numbers. They immediately gave me two blood transfusions. I felt a bit better almost right away. But I had a long way to go yet.
Due to the transfusions, I got put on a priority surgery list in the OR for a hysterectomy. I just wanted nothing to do with it any longer. I couldnt go thru this any longer. It have traumatized my emotional and mental self so severly(i already had a problem you could say with blood, now it was off the charts) I just could not handle it at this point. I really thought I would go crazy by the time november came around. I was supposed to have surgery on the 2nd I think it was and I was too sick with some flu that they thought maybe the H1N1 at the time of course, so refused to do it then. Looking back it was a good thing. We got my booked in again for two weeks later(again thank you God) as I have freinds waiting for surgery(gyno) and they are still waiting. But the important part is we decided to not go with the hysterectomy. I decided to try to “endometrial ablation” it’s when they take an instrument and it has electricity in it, and they basically cauterize the lining of your uterous. This means you cannot have any more babies, as there is not a lining anymore for the embryo to implant.(hence my situtaion)
Of course by this time I had been on “the pill” which is the most powerful one they give for bleeding, it’s given rarely these days as it is not as safe as the new pills cuz of the amount of hormones in it. But I had no choice at the time to try them. And it did slow things down a little little bit. But the side effects were awful. I had no appetite, as things tasted really weird. I had skin rashes, spots on my tongue, weight gain, bloating, swollen ankles, and the worst of all…..the deadly depression and panic attacks that I had never experienced before. They were just deadly, that’s the only way I can explain it. I thought I would not survive in some way from being ill. Either I would bleed to death, or go crazy , or end it myself. It was one of the worst times of my life….and for my kids too. It was nearly impossible with no extended family to help out with them, or grammas house to go to for a couple weeks, or whatever, to keep them protected from it. So they had to suffer as well in their own ways.
Anyhow, It was a success so far, and I’ve had only one cycle since then, but I have the hormonal shifts still, but it’s harder to know when they are expected with out any other symptoms. But I am glad. I partly wished I would have just done the hysterectomy, and gotten it over with. As there is a large chance within the next 5 to 10 years it will happen. I have to be very closely watched now for cancer, and that upsets me. But so far I am glad to be as far ahead as I am here. Unfortunately I am not left with post traumatic stress disorder from being so ill, which I am in counselling for; a couple dozen pounds that should nt have been put on in the first place due to the “pill”; Still have the depression to deal with as well, and then there is the ANEMIA. This is I think what my problem is right now. The reason i can’t seem to work any harder, no matter what I tell myself inside of how I can do it, etc,….I just sink. And when I had my labs done 5weeks ago they were still extremely low. If I had an accident, or needed surgery, or cut myself, etc,…and couldnt get to a hospital immediately , I wouldnt be able to make it. My iron reserves are just too low. I would bleed to death very fast. Does this add to my anxiety? Oh yeah. I try not to dwell on it, but it pops into my emotions and sometimes doesnt want to leave for awhile lol. But there is nothing I can do except be careful, and take my iron suppliments, and hope for the best. I have an appt with a blood specialist in july, so who knows what will happen then? I just want to not feel so TIRED all the time, no matter how much sleep I get.
Wow, I can’t believe how much I wrote here….if you did make it through this , thank you for reading, and it’s almost over lol.
I’ve come a long way since january. I have a lot to be thankful for and proud of. But I still have a long way to go, and I need to slow down and learn how to be more patient with it all. I dont’ want to fail. I want this to be a reality for me to lose all the weight I want and need to lose. I want my health back desparatly, and now you may understand a bit more why I feel the way I do and say some of the things I say lol.
So hopefully dreaming of the future me and what I will feel like, and look like, and all that goes along with it is not a mistake. I want to LIVE in the present as well though, so I know I have to find a good BALANCE in this.
And if you are the praying kind, please pray that I am able to tolerate the new iron tablets and that soon my iron will improve, and I will feel so much better!! And I will be successful in things I want to accomplish after that!
THANK YOU buddies!!!! I don’t know what I would do without being able to come here and pour my heart out. I really appreciate all you different women/people, who I can learn from and get support from, and I just think we do make each other better people by being here in this community!
Thanks again!
love,
Kimberly.